Can You Use Mind Over Matter In Tough Or Scary Times?

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A couple of weeks ago I did something that I knew would scare me and I had to use mind over matter to get through it.  Which reminds me, I was preparing for this “something” and chose to skip my bi-weekly blog, so my sincere apologies if you happened to notice.

I taught a 9 hour workshop on “Fulfilling Relationships” and knew that I would be up in front of the room in front of some people I had just met that morning speaking for an entire day.  That wasn’t what scared me the most though.

I had a few people I did know attending, two of which I knew I wanted to give some feedback to and one that I planned on doing some heavy duty work with and I knew that it would benefit that person greatly, but it made me quite nervous.

As a result of my nerves being turned up to high, I began getting a migraine (which is extremely rare for me) and my feet were killing me from walking around in heels.  I had to just mind over matter it because I knew in the end, if I did, I would be so grateful for the opportunity, learn a ton from it and that it would be easier next time.  The cool thing is I do want there to be a next time.

At the same time I was doing my workshop, my boyfriend was riding a 100 mile bike race in about 100 degree weather.  He has done quite a few of those in his life, but he too was having to use “mind over matter” during his ride and talked about the ways he had to talk himself out of stopping and how he was able to keep going through mind over matter despite any cramping or thinking he was going to have to quit at times.

Would you be willing to take on a challenge and come up with something that scares you or would push you to your edge and see if you could do it anyway?

I can’t say that I would ever be able to do a 100 mile bike ride, unless that was a huge goal of mine and I believe I could find a way to make it happen.  I do know though that I was able to get through something that I was afraid of doing by pushing through it knowing that the people in that room came to learn something and I wanted them to get what they came for and I sure hope that they did.

Once it was over and I got plenty of rest, I was able to reflect and celebrate the joy of doing something that scared me.  And you know what?  I didn’t die.  I didn’t fall.  I didn’t stop.  I didn’t not know what I was doing, which has been a reoccurring fear of mine in the past.  And I didn’t have anyone walk out of the course (always a bonus ;)).  And most importantly, my two friends are still talking to me and I’m pretty sure still love me 😉

I did however realize I had way too much content and the course needed to be two days long!  So, what do you do?  You send material via email to the participants afterwards and note to self for next time to extend the time frame or to make it into two different courses. Had I not just done the course without having it all perfectly figured out, I may have never done the course.  And now I have the confidence to do another one.

Wishing you opportunities to learn and grow and the possibility of needing to use mind over matter to get yourself through a tough or scary time in your life in order to live your life to your fullest potential.

Until next time…

Photo credit, Hal Samples: www.halsamples.com

How Fulfilling Are Your Relationships? Wanna Make Em Better?

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How fulfilling are your relationships?  I’ll have what these people are having!  I’m not sure why there are five females to each male here, but let’s just go with it…

What if all of your relationships were this fun and playful?  I believe they can be.  OK, so maybe not every moment, but the majority of the time.  That’s why I’m holding a “Fulfilling Relationship Workshop” on August 23rd in Dallas and I’m so excited about it!

You see, I used to be an expert at sabotaging my relationships and was the queen of everything you don’t want to do in a relationship to have them fail and have yourself or others end up getting hurt along the way, in return, feeling horrible about yourself.  I actually mastered it over the years until I got fed up with it and decided I wanted to change.  Sometimes we have to look and see if there is a common denominator of why things aren’t working.  Sometimes we find that it’s us 🙂  And I’ve grown to love finding out how I can learn and improve myself along this journey of life, even if it’s hard sometimes.

Six years of coaching and hard work on myself and my issues later…I won’t call myself a master of relationships since I am, of course, human, but I will say that I’ve learned many things along the way to make my relationship one that I find to be extremely fulfilling.  Like, I have to force myself to do other things sometimes because all I want to do is hang out and have fun together.

I want to help others who could be like I used to be see why they do the things they do in relationships and continue to repeat the same patterns learn what they really want in a relationship, how to be a great partner and how to attract what they want into their life.

This workshop is great for anyone who is wanting to be in a relationship, but never seems to find the “right” match, someone who is currently unfulfilled in their relationship and would like to make it better or someone who wants to better their relationships with friends and family.

If anything, it’s going to be a day to do some deep soul searching, followed by creating the future that you DO want and having fun with other likeminded individuals.

I would love to have you join us!

If you’re interested and finances are what would keep you from coming, email me and we’ll work something out tessa@findyourtriessence.com.  I don’t want any willing participants to miss out on this fun opportunity!

Wishing you all the most fulfilled relationships along your journey.  May you have the urge to leap in the water like these peeps above.  And if you don’t, may you do it anyway and see how it makes you feel.  What’s the worst that can happen?  If you don’t like it, you never have to do it again.

Going To The Chapel, And They Got Married…

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Congratulations to Ryan and Lindsay!   I had a great time last weekend in Ohio getting to teach yoga the morning of their wedding.

It was a great way to have the groom get into a relaxed state of mind for the fun-filled day ahead of him and he really enjoyed it!

TRIESSENCE is now offering “Reset Breaks” that consist of breathing, stretching and/or yoga breaks at corporate meetings and other events.

More information can be found on the following link:

https://findyourtriessence.com/physical/

“Reset Breaks” are a great way to break up the monotony of meetings and help the attendees be able to retain all of the information as well as have everyone be more creative and productive.

I had the privilege of doing a “reset break” for the U.S. Department of Veteran’s Affairs recently where I got to help the people that take care of so many others as occupational therapists and physical therapists learn how to take care of themselves, while they are doing such amazing work in the world.  It was a true honor to do some stretching and breathing exercises with them outdoors in a beautiful setting in Dallas.

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I would love to come do a break at your next meeting or event or even at your wedding to help get your prepared for your BIG DAY 🙂 Hope to hear from you soon!

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See Tessa Todd and TRIESSENCE featured in Dallas Business Journal >

TRIESSENCE Blogs and Article in Dallas Business Journal, Feeling Blessed…

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Happy Friday, everyone!

I am feeling so blessed and humbled today and I wanted to share.

The Dallas Business Journal published an article on TRIESSENCE today as well as four blogs this week breaking down fun yoga poses to try.

Here’s the article (full article will be unlocked in 30 days, but still wanted to share):

http://www.bizjournals.com/dallas/print-edition/2014/07/11/facetime-tessa-todd-combines-yoga-life-coaching-to.html

Here is the page with the blogs about the four different yoga poses:

http://www.bizjournals.com/dallas/search/results?q=tessa+todd&search-button=

Feeling so grateful and thankful for all of your support. I hope you all have a safe and wonderful weekend.

And, thank you oh so much to Dallas Business Journal.

So happy…

Do You Know How Distracted You Are?

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Do you know how distracted you are?  This guy certainly does!

Meet my friend, Curt Steinhorst, the distraction expert.

Curt and I worked together many years ago booking speakers and celebrities for corporate events.  Now, Curt owns his own business helping speakers and celebrities perfect their speeches, owns his own speakers bureau where you can book any of those people that you wish and he is also an excellent speaker himself.

I have been working with Curt recently to help manage his speaking business and I’m amazed at all that I have learned from him and how much more productive I’ve been the past few weeks. Like, more productive than I’ve been in months, if not years!

I won’t give away all his secrets (not to worry, his website is at the bottom of this post), but there are some amazing tools and techniques out there that can keep us from being so distracted. Curt is so excited about this topic he’s even writing a book about it and thinks it’s the most important issue that organizations face today. With all the iPhones and other technology we have coming at us these days, actual productive work has never been more challenging.

Did you know it takes an average of 23 minutes to get back on task once we have become distracted?  How scary is that?

When you sit down to do a task what all do you have going on?  Do you have music playing in the background, your cell phone on your desk just waiting for the next text to come through, your email, calendar, google, Facebook and other windows open on your computer?  It’s a wonder we ever get anything done at all.

The next time you sit down to do an important task, I’d like to challenge you to see if you can shut off everything else and close out all the other tabs and just focus on that task.  See if you are able to get more done.  You might be surprised!

Until next time, cheers to a more productive next couple of weeks!

To find out more information on Curt Steinhorst, check out: www.curtsteinhorst.com

Happy 1st Birthday, TRIESSENCE! Highlights From The Year…

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TRIESSENCE is proud to announce it just celebrated birthday number 1!

TRIESSENCE exists to help people find the perfect balance of their true essence bringing them to the fullest expression of who they are, which can result in an increase in happiness, fulfilling relationships, health, success, love and joy.  TRIESSENCE wants to help as many people as possible live their lives to their fullest potential and embrace their greatness.

A lot of great things have happened in the last 365 days and TRIESSENCE has remained true to the mission above over the course of the year. Here are a few of the highlights:

1. One year ago, TRIESSENCE launched the first public yoga class and has enjoyed getting to teach and watch students grow and see their bodies transform as they are able to do more with each session.
2. TRIESSENCE has worked with coaching clients from anything to helping find their paths in order to live out their dreams to currently working with one on launching a new business and speaking skills to helping another with the challenges one faces in romantic relationships. TRIESSENCE even helped one coaching client complete a film project this year, which took founder Tessa Todd to London for a week back in April.
3. TRIESSENCE has done private yoga sessions and had a lot of progress with one particular client who has been doing privates since January and taking public classes with Tessa for a year now. She has a rod in her spine due to scoliosis and was concerned she wouldn’t be able to do much when they first started. TRIESSENCE is proud to say she is now doing headstands in the middle of the room, by herself. Rod and all!  TRIESSENCE is thrilled to be able to see individuals gain confidence and be able to accomplish things they never thought possible!
4. TRIESSENCE has taught corporate yoga anywhere from small home offices to Mockingbird Station and Comerica Bank Tower downtown in Dallas.
5. One year ago, TRIESSENCE’s first corporate yoga retreat was done outside in a park with 5 people (pictured above). The weather was perfect that day and since then, the sky has been the limit! Last week, TRIESSENCE did a corporate yoga event and mediation session with a group of male and female occupational therapists & physical therapists with the Department of Veterans Affairs. It was such an honor for Tessa to be able to help the people that take care of so many others learn ways to take care of themselves since they deserve it so much for all of the hard work they do!

While Tessa is focusing primarily on corporate yoga onsite at companies or at their events, private yoga sessions and life coaching, she does offer one public yoga class a week on Tuesday evenings at 6PM. If you are interested in checking out the class, please email tessa@findyourtriessence.com

Here’s what a few clients have had to say about working with TRIESSENCE:

“Having Tessa come and do classes at our building is such a great amenity to have for our tenants. The convenience of having yoga onsite versus having to go elsewhere for classes is a huge advantage for all of us. I believe it is a big stress reliever for everyone and I leave feeling energized after each class. I highly recommend it for your company or building!”

Elizabeth Costello Chavez – Tenant Services Coordinator, Comerica Bank Tower

“My original motivation for incorporating a Yoga Break at our company-wide retreat was to offer an out-of-the-box team-building activity for our group. Little did I know it would be such a highlight of our retreat! Our team talks about it to this day, and we’ve since incorporated TRIESSENCE Corporate Yoga twice a week at our office.

Tessa was so mindful of the different levels of fitness represented in the group, and effortlessly customized the class to meet each one. In addition to the benefits that each attendee got out of the session, it cleared our minds to be so much more productive for the rest of our meetings. In fact, I find myself (selfishly) wishing the conferences I attend throughout the year offered Yoga Breaks! I definitely recommend it.”

Christa Haberstock – President, see:a·gen·cy

Personal message from Tessa Todd:

None of these things could have happened this year without the love and support from so many of you along the way. Thank you so much for your faithful support and encouragement! Thank you to all of my clients for continuing to show up and have the drive to continue to better themselves.

For any clients that have moved on but are still using some of the techniques we used together, I’d love to hear from you.  And many of you may not have done any yoga or coaching sessions with me, so if there is anything I can do to support you, I’d love to hear from you as well.  I appreciate the support from each and every one of you and I thank you all from the bottom of my heart.  Cheers to many more years to come…

For more information on services offered by TRIESSENCE, please visit www.findyourtriessence.com and you can “like” TRIESSENCE on FB for bi-weekly blogs by visiting https://www.facebook.com/Triessence

Are Your Thoughts Serving You?

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Are your thoughts serving you?

Do you ever pay attention to the things that you are telling yourself throughout the day? I’ve been thinking so much about this lately because of conversations I’ve had with a few of my yoga students.

It seems that a lot of times we can say the most negative things to ourselves and wonder why we are not happy or don’t always think so highly of ourselves.  I’d like to invite you to pay attention to your thoughts and see where you stand.

For example, some of my students have said that they say things to themselves throughout class such as “I can’t do this” or “this is hard” or “I’m not good at this” and we are surprised at how discouraged we can be at ourselves.

And no, I don’t then tell them to say the opposite of “I can do this” or “this is easy” and “I’m great at this” because we all know that would do nothing.

But, what I have been paying attention to lately and inviting others to do is start whatever project or class or anything you are doing where you know there may be resistance and remind yourself of the reason you are there and why you are doing it in the first place.

So, if it’s to relieve stress, to become more flexible, to ease your mind and relax, etc. you then do your best to catch yourself when you are having those negative self talk moments and then simply just remind yourself of why you are doing it in the first place and give yourself a little slack and feel grateful that you are able to do something great for your body and mind.

If it’s a part of your job and you are telling yourself how much you hate doing what you are doing, think about the end result and what it provides for you or others and remind yourself of that along the way.

I hope you all have a safe and joyous Memorial Day weekend and may you find a way to have some thoughts over the next two weeks that serve you better.

 

Think You Can’t Do Yoga? Think Again!

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To all my friends out there that think they can’t do yoga, please think again!

If you’ve never seen the popular video of the guy who couldn’t even walk and started doing yoga and all of the amazing progress that he made, check it out here:

Never, Ever Give Up.

And for any of you that aren’t quite to the point of checking out a class and have hesitations about whether you could do it or not, here is a very beginner 30 minute video below that I made for my uncle last week to help with his balance.  Maybe it could help you see that you too can do yoga!

As I always tell my students, if you literally just sat on your mat the entire class and paid attention to your breathing, you’d be doing a great service to your body and mind.

When is the last time you just sat quietly and took deep, healing breaths?  Your body and mind deserve it!

30 Minute Beginner Yoga Balance Video

What Are Your Expectations?

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What are your expectations?

I’ve been thinking about this a lot today as I went to yoga this morning expecting my favorite teacher to be teaching and walked in the door to find a sub would be leading us through the class.  This was someone that I had never met before and I automatically assumed I wasn’t going to enjoy class as much as I normally would since it wasn’t my favorite teacher.

I realize picking “favorites” isn’t probably the best thing to do, especially with yoga. I could have just been grateful that I had the opportunity to practice at 9AM on a Friday.  Wouldn’t it be great if we could just let anyone instruct us through our practice and not judge or compare one teacher from the next?  I wish I could, but the truth is I do have a certain style that I prefer and actually we all deserve to have our preferences, right?!

The beauty of it was that as soon as the teacher walked into the room, I could see her bright light shining and could tell that she had a beautiful soul and a lot to offer us (at least in my opinion :)).  The class was great and I really liked her teaching style a lot and it taught me a lesson around expectations.  I expected one thing and got another and it was a breath of fresh air and ended up being a rewarding lesson for me to learn that I can go into situations with eagerness to be surprised and delighted vs. expecting the worst or something negative if something doesn’t totally go my way.

On my 2014 vision board I put “Love Without Expectations” and I try and look at it as much as possible for a reminder.  This one I have a little more challenge with because I think we all expect a lot out of the people that we love.  I’m working on trying not to keep score and pay attention to who does what in my close relationships and to go more just out of doing what I want to out of love no matter what others do.

I challenge you to do the same.  There are a lot of upsets around what we think others “should” do for us, especially when we take the time to do something for them.  How about we focus more on what we can do for others without expecting anything in return? What if each time we did something for others it brought more joy to our hearts than if someone did something for us?

You can spend a lot of wasted hours being upset with people about things they never promised to do in the first place.  Or you can spend countless hours with your heart full of joy when you love others and act on what you are feeling and what you want to do for them and then expect nothing in return.

Which will you choose?

Until next time…

We Are Powerful Beyond Measure

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I was in London last week with a coaching client watching him do what he was born to do showing a documentary film that he had created and I was reminded of this quote below by Marianne Williamson.

This is one of my favorite quotes.  It speaks for itself, so I’ve really got nothing else left to say other than when I was on the trip watching a client of mine fulfill his dreams and having the opportunity to let his light shine brightly, I was reminded once again that we all have the ability to do anything that we could ever possibly want to do.  There is absolutely no reason to play small.

Here’s hoping that you play as big as you can for the next two weeks until we meet again. I’d like to challenge you to ask yourself where you are playing small and what you would need to do in order to have your light shine as bright as possible.

“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”

– Marianne Williamson