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Do you know the change you hope to see in the world?

I got a t-shirt for Christmas from a girlfriend with this picture on it and it really had me ponder the saying.

And I’m inspired by a friend who is getting ready to move across country to finish out one of the biggest projects of his life that in my opinion has to do with him being the change he hopes to see in the world.

So, I’ve been asking myself… What is the change I hope to see in the world and am I BEING that change?

This could be anything. And you could take it to whatever extreme that you feel works for you, but do you know what change you want in the world? If you were to take a stand for one cause or one thing happening in the world, what would it be?

Perhaps it’s just something as simple as you believe in being more green and recycling is what you are most passionate about and you always recycle and maybe even encourage others to do so and you are happy with that!

Or, it could be something that seems bigger than you like my friends project where you have no idea how it will happen or how you will get it done and it could be the scariest thing in the world, but you do it anyway.

I believe mine currently falls somewhere in the middle.

I want to help people live their lives to their fullest potential. To stop sabotaging themselves in any way and know that they can fulfill their dreams and find true joy in their lives. That can mean so many different things for each individual.

So, am I BEING that change? That has been a question I’ve been asking myself a lot lately. And today, I have to say that the answer is yes. Not in a braggy sort of a way because I know it is not something that I do perfectly, but I am trying and putting forth a lot of effort to be that change.

Are there things that need improvement? Yes. Are there times when fear and insecurities get in the way? Absolutely. Do I keep trying anyway? Always.

I was brilliant at sabotaging myself and my potential for most of my life and I made a commitment to put an end to that a few years ago.

Is it scary sometimes when I step out and do things I am nervous about? For sure. Is it fun when I do it anyway? SO MUCH FUN! Do I learn along the way? Constantly.

Am I open to my change growing so much somehow that I get out of the “somewhere in the middle” and it becomes that scariest thing I’ve ever done? Bring it on.

Here’s hoping that you take some time to think about what your change is that you hope to see in the world and be honest with yourself about how much you are being that change. See if there’s anything you can commit to in order to be that change a little more. Maybe you decide to move across the country and be it a lot more. Either way, I think you will find more peace and joy if you put some thought and effort into it.

HAPPY NEW YEAR to you all and I hope you enjoyed your holiday season. I certainly did! I chose to take some time off and missed a bi-weekly blog in there, sorry about that if anyone noticed and missed it, but I’m back 🙂

“Vulnerability is the birthplace of innovation, creativity and change.”

“Imperfections are not inadequacies; they are reminders that we’re all in this together.”

“Owning our story can be hard but not nearly as difficult as spending our lives running from it. Embracing our vulnerabilities is risky but not nearly as dangerous as giving up on love and belonging and joy—the experiences that make us the most vulnerable. Only when we are brave enough to explore the darkness will we discover the infinite power of our light.”

– Brené Brown

I was reminded of this beautiful quote from Brené Brown this evening after I decided to have a vulnerable conversation with someone that I care deeply about. The funny thing about it is the person I was having a conversation with is the same individual that passed along this quote to me a few months ago when it was featured in one of Mastin Kipp’s “The Daily Love” articles. Mastin shares some great stuff on his blogs. If you haven’t ever heard of him, it might be worth taking a minute to check him out!

Have you ever felt like if you were to ask everyone that you know for their advice on the way you are wanting to move forward on something that they would all say whatever you do, DO NOT DO what you are wanting to do and the way you are wanting to go about doing it?

Well, that happened to me today. But, I did it anyway. And I’m so glad that I did. You see, today I decided to be totally vulnerable with someone that I care deeply about and I knew it wasn’t going to be pretty, but I did it anyway. I was shaking and my heart was pounding and I was so nervous about the outcome, but I did it anyway.

And you know what?! I survived. And in the end, it turned out to be such a beautiful thing and a wonderful conversation. I think that sometimes people think that we can share too much with one another and that sometimes things are better left unsaid. I believe that if something seems so important to you that you know that you will not be able to get through it without sharing, then I disagree.

As long as our vulnerabilities are coming from a place of truth and love and how it is for us vs. blaming the other person, I believe it’s hard for things to go wrong. Granted the other person has to be open enough to be able to sit with you in your vulnerable state, but if they aren’t, I still believe it’s great to do it anyway so that you can see that and make a decision of whether or not that person is worth someone that you will choose to invest more time in by allowing them in to see your whole self or not.

I am committed to speaking what is true for me as embarrassing or silly that I think that it is and as scary as it may seem that someone could think that I am sharing too much information.

Is there something that you have wanted to say to someone, but you get too nervous or feel too vulnerable to go towards that particular conversation? I’d like to encourage you to do it anyway. And even if it doesn’t turn out exactly the way you had in mind and if the other person isn’t open to receiving it, be proud that you put yourself out there anyway and don’t let it make you afraid to do it again.

Because you know what? One of these days you will be lucky enough to have a situation like I did this evening where the other person totally appreciates you for who you are and is thankful for your honesty and vulnerability. And that, my friends, can be the start of a very beautiful relationship.

Here’s wishing many beautiful conversations in the near future for each and every one of you.

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